Oft-times in my work I hear a client say, “I know that I need to be doing _____ (fill in the blank) - but I just don’t do it!” When I hear that, I wonder what they really know. Many times, people realize that they are feeling one thing…saying something else…and behaving in a way that is unrelated to either! Although living fragmented in this way has many negative consequences, the two I will mention today relate to relationships and decision-making.
The Bible tells us to live a self-examined life. I cannot love what I don’t know. If I want more love in my life, I must first learn how to honor my feelings and respect my mind…identifying and sharing my emotions and thoughts appropriately. Once you really know yourself and accept what you find you can begin to love others for who they are. You respectfully hold space for their feelings and thoughts.
God says, “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). If what I feel, think, say, and do is not in alignment I cannot make fully informed decisions. Conversely, the more I know who I am in any given moment, the more appropriate and resourceful my choices will be. This will positively impact my relationships and every aspect of my life. You will know what I know by what I do! Watch how I treat myself and others.
Just as my actions reveal the truth of what I know, so do yours. If you find yourself repeating behaviors that lead you away from what you say you want, you may benefit from courageously examining what you really know. You may discover you are out of touch with your feelings, thoughts, and desires.
Awareness is essential to healing. I invite you to find supportive people who reflect the love of Christ to walk along side you while discovering unknown aspects of yourself. Bring all into the Light of God’s transforming power. As He ministers healing to fragmented parts…restoring wholeness, I am confident you will find someone worth celebrating!
Until next time - Blessings, Deb
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